The narcissist thinks they are superior and better than everyone else in whatever they do. We all know that is not true and the narcissist has faults just like everyone else. However, the narcissist is the best at one thing and that is lying. The narcissists are master liars, and they can play word games better than anyone else. They can manipulate their words in such a way that you become confused and don’t even remember what the initial issue was, much less what the truth might be. Are narcissists good liars and if so, why?
The narcissist is a master at lying because they have lied their whole lives. It is a skill they consistently work to improve, and they are successful in improving how they lie. The narcissist begins to believe their lies, which makes it even easier for them to continue to lie.
The narcissist lies as a way to maintain their sense of superiority and hide their low self-esteem. Lying for the narcissist is a type of survival method. They must lie to maintain the core of who they believe they are. They lie to keep people distracted and unable to know what the truth might be.
The narcissist must maintain an inflated ego as a cover for their low self-esteem. The narcissist is incapable of seeing who they truly are so they must protect against this at all costs. While it might seem the narcissist is lying to you, they are actually lying to themselves, and you are just a byproduct of the world they live in.
The narcissist lies to themselves because they always feel as if they are under attack. They must be on the defensive to protect against narcissistic injury. The narcissist must be one step ahead of everyone else so they can keep others confused and continue to craft the life they want others to see they live.
The narcissists are liars and not just someone who lies. Lying for the narcissist is a quality while lying for a non-narcissist is a behavior. What is the difference between a liar and someone who lies? When non-narcissists lie and are confronted, they check in with themselves to figure out what they lied about and why they lied. They even consider apologizing for the lie they have told and feel guilt for how the lie they told affected others. The narcissist does none of those things. When confronted with a lie, or if they start to think others realize they are lying, the narcissist will come up with a new lie to deceive. Being confronted with information that suggests their truth is false just means the narcissist becomes more defensive and lies deeper and about more things. Lying is survival for the narcissist.
The lies from the narcissist can be about big things or little things. Things that seem to matter and those that don’t. The narcissist will lie about things that don’t even need to be lied about. You ask a narcissist what they ate for dinner, and they lie. Who really cares what they ate for dinner so why would that be something they lie about? The narcissist lies about the mundane things that don’t require a lie because they never want you to know the truth, even for the little things. To know the truth about one thing makes them feel vulnerable and this places them at risk for being found out for who they truly are.
As I mentioned earlier, the narcissist has lied their whole lives. They know no different. This is why they are good liars. They are flawed and have low self-esteem. They must display an inflated ego to hide their fragile sense of self. The larger they can inflate their ego with their consistent lies, the harder it is for you to figure out what is real and what isn’t. They gaslight you to keep you guessing, which is exactly where they want you to be. The narcissist feels in control with their lies and this gives them the upper hand they must always maintain to feel superior and grandiose. The more lies they tell, the harder it is to find out who they really are. One truth exposed is just another opportunity to lie to you, while inflating their waning narcissistic supply. Each move by the narcissist is well thought out and they design the world around them in a way that will keep them a step ahead of everyone else. Are narcissists good liars? Yes, they are because their life truly does depend on their ability to lie and deceive.