Helpful Advice From A Professional

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that will support your mental health journey.

Wed, Apr 24 2024, 11:00 AM

Why Won't My Partner Work On Themselves?

Emily Mayfield

You cannot change someone else, and you can only change yourself. So, if you can’t change someone else, then how can you improve your relationship if the other person doesn’t see any issues, doesn’t want to change, or doesn’t know how to change?

Wed, Apr 10 2024, 11:00 AM

My Partner’s Parent Is a Narcissist

Emily Mayfield

But what if you have an amazing partner who is loving and supportive, but find out their parent is a narcissist? To remain in the relationship with your partner means you open the door for the narcissist-in-law to be in your life. How do you adjust to this dynamic and what is the best way to handle what is happening?

Thu, Apr 04 2024, 11:00 AM

Don't Engage With The Narcissist: Do This Instead!

Emily Mayfield

So, what should you do instead of engaging with the narcissist's silent treatment and taking the bait? You should continue to interact with them as if they aren’t giving you the silent treatment.

Wed, Mar 27 2024, 11:00 AM

If I Give the Silent Treatment, Am I A Narcissist?

Emily Mayfield

When you go silent, you are no longer taking the bait from the narcissist, and this helps you be in control of the situation. This isn’t the same as you being silent in order to control the situation so that you get your way. That is a very fine distinction between the two and this is why it can be confusing.

Thu, Mar 21 2024, 11:00 AM

The Narcissist Isn’t Abusing You Personally

Emily Mayfield

The narcissist abuse feels personal, but it isn’t. Their harsh and abusive words feel like they are targeting you specifically, but they aren’t. That might be hard to understand and agree with, but it really isn’t about you.

Wed, Mar 13 2024, 11:00 AM

Letting Go of Anger After The Narcissist

Emily Mayfield

If you have been in an abusive relationship, for any period of time, then you know firsthand the roller coaster of emotions you experienced with your abusive partner. You were angry when you were with the narcissist, and still angry when you are without the narcissist. How do you let go of anger after the narcissist?

Fri, Mar 08 2024, 11:00 AM

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Emily Mayfield

I am Dr. Emily Mayfield, a licensed psychologist. I wanted to create a short blog on who I am and how best to use the videos you find on my channel!

Wed, Mar 06 2024, 11:00 AM

Your Happiness Doesn't Matter To The Narcissist

Emily Mayfield

Your happiness doesn’t matter to a narcissist. That might be hard to hear, but it is true. Whether or not you are happy has no influence on the narcissist’s thoughts of you and the relationship.

Wed, Feb 28 2024, 11:00 AM

Why Does The Narcissist Still Contact Me When They Have A New Supply?

Emily Mayfield

The narcissist has found a new supply. They discarded you to be with the supply and ended your relationship with seemingly no warning. Yet, the narcissist still contacts you even after the discard. Why does the narcissist still contact you even when they have a new supply?

Wed, Feb 21 2024, 11:00 AM

Why Does the Narcissist Act Like I Don't Exist?

Emily Mayfield

When it comes to the narcissist and how they treat you, there are so many questions that you ask yourself. The narcissist wants to keep you in a place of uncertainty about the relationship, and even uncertainty about yourself. The more uncertain you feel, the easier you are to control.

Wed, Feb 14 2024, 11:00 AM

What is Narcissist Supply?

Emily Mayfield

Due to a narcissist’s inability to boost their own self-esteem, and the requirement it comes from outside sources, the narcissist is always on the lookout for people that can provide them with the admiration they so desire. The narcissist supply becomes the person/people that provides these for the narcissist. The supply allows them to boost their self-esteem and to sustain their sense of self, which would otherwise fall apart.

Wed, Feb 07 2024, 11:00 AM

What Does It Mean To Be Vulnerable?

Emily Mayfield

Vulnerability. Does that word bring anxiety or uneasiness to you? Do you want to run when you think of being vulnerable? What about that word can be so frightening and why is it so hard to be vulnerable?

Thu, Feb 01 2024, 11:00 AM

What Makes A Narcissist Mad?

Emily Mayfield

Have you made the narcissist mad AGAIN? Does it seem like no matter what you do, it makes the narcissist mad? If you feel like the narcissist is always mad, and oftentimes for reasons you don’t even know about, you are correct. The narcissist lives in a place of anger.

Wed, Jan 24 2024, 11:00 AM

My Friend Is Dating A Narcissist - Help!

Emily Mayfield

The first thing to remember when your friend is in a relationship with a narcissist is that the version of the narcissist you see may not be the version your friend sees. Narcissists are excellent at impression management.

Wed, Jan 17 2024, 11:00 AM

Can Anyone Be a New Supply For The Narcissist?

Emily Mayfield

The narcissist supplies are carefully chosen to serve the needs of the narcissist at a given time. The supply doesn’t just show up in the narcissist’s life and the narcissist then figures out how to use them. Rather, the narcissist seeks out their supply and then only keeps those they think will benefit them.

Wed, Jan 10 2024, 11:00 AM

Narcissist Is Nice When They Need To Control

Emily Mayfield

While it might seem hopeful that the narcissist has changed, I will be the bearer of bad news and state this isn’t what has happened when the narcissist is beginning to be nice. The narcissist lacks object constancy and has an unstable sense of self. That means that they are incapable of managing stressors in their life and independently making themselves feel better. For this reason, they need to use others to feel better about themselves.

Wed, Jan 03 2024, 11:00 AM

Nonstop Verbal Assaults From The Narcissist

Emily Mayfield

This nonstop verbal assault from the narcissist isn’t designed to be productive in solving the issue. In fact, you likely won’t even know what the narcissist is upset about because they aren’t making it about them and their own issues. The verbal assault very quickly becomes about you.

Thu, Dec 28 2023, 11:00 AM

Will I Be Happier Without The Narcissist?

Emily Mayfield

While the decision to leave the relationship with the narcissist will always be your decision, the narcissist doesn’t make it easy and turns it into being all about them. So how do you really know it is time to leave the narcissist? You want to make the decision that is right for you, and not the one the narcissist thinks is best for them.

Wed, Dec 20 2023, 11:00 AM

Golden Child Is a Source Of Supply For The Narcissist

Emily Mayfield

The narcissist needs to surround themselves with as many people as possible to help them feel special and unique. And when this person is their child, it is easier for the narcissist to control how they act. The narcissist can more readily apply their love, and punishment, to the child as a way to manipulate the child.

Wed, Dec 13 2023, 11:00 AM

Do Narcissists Always Need a Supply?

Emily Mayfield

Do narcissists always need a supply? The answer to that is yes, the narcissist will always need a source of supply at the ready. In fact, they need multiple sources of supply available to them. If they can’t get their needed boost to their ego from one supply, they need others at the ready who can serve that role.

What Clients Are Saying

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- Written by S.T. on 04.19.2019

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- Written by J.I. on 04.09.19

I was skeptical at first. “Therapy through an app? This is like peak millennial behavior”. But as I had trouble finding an in person therapist who could also accommodate my schedule (why don’t they ever have night and weekend therapists?) I decided to bite the bullet. I feel like I lucked out because Dr. Mayfield was my first therapist here and became such a good fit for me–I can’t imagine what it’d be like to start over again. I came here for ways to manage my anxiety which was interfering with several aspects of my life, including my relationship. Dr. Mayfield has been as attentive if not more than even someone who was in front of me. Though we mostly speak through text, Dr. Mayfield’s help has been such an integral part of my journey. I feel like I lucked out with her, and if you have too I hope you feel the same.

- Written by J.U. on 04.08.19

She has been supportive, given me helpful ideas, and is comforting. It is nice to have someone who isn’t a family member that understands the process of loss. Her responses have been invaluable. I can respond in a non-threatening way and be honest when writing to her. She asked appropriate questions for me to respond to. Overall very satisfied with the service. Especially since I do not have to drive far and can respond on my own time in my home.

- Written by M.A. on 04.05.19

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